tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post5307588855410847298..comments2023-10-20T13:38:09.912+01:00Comments on S T Y L I S H . M: "The Haram Police"StylishMuslimahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04757465398662688932noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-91299210141939781782012-12-29T15:26:23.000+00:002012-12-29T15:26:23.000+00:00I always try to follow the rule: if you point a fi...I always try to follow the rule: if you point a finger at someone, there are three others pointing back at you. <br />What makes people think that they have the right to publicly judge others. The quran also says (this is from<br />Memory not quoted) that the best of us in the eyes of Allah are the ones who are the most pious. I wear hijab, but i know many muslimahs who dont, who i think are sometimes much better than me at adhering to other parts of islam. It just means that we all have flaws and things that we're working on. So unless you think that in the eyes of Allah you are the most pious, which by the way is arrogance, another great sin, keep your hateful opinions to yourself. And if you truly want to help someone, send them a private message thats laced with love not hate. Keep your arrogance in check.Miranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-25952421019672183072012-06-19T00:54:13.552+01:002012-06-19T00:54:13.552+01:00Right now my challenge from Allah are the non-Musl...Right now my challenge from Allah are the non-Muslims around me. Trying my best to handle them. So when fellow Sisters in Islam are unkind to another Sister, it saddens my heart. I used to read blogs to feel the support of the Islamic Sisterhood. What a pity that we sometimes can't treat each other better. Inshallah perhaps it'll improve.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-64469466268808780302012-06-17T01:35:11.154+01:002012-06-17T01:35:11.154+01:00Thank you so much for saying this! I actually just...Thank you so much for saying this! I actually just read another blog today that was being very judgemental and nit-picking other hijabis about whether or not what they were wearing was correct. You are right, there are so many different opinions about what is and isn't correct; what is most important is that a person's own faith and relationship with Allah-- what they wear is between them and Allah, only he can judge them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-26132672601057890252012-06-12T18:25:15.264+01:002012-06-12T18:25:15.264+01:00@Umm Gamar: Assalaam waliekum.
I think the reason...@Umm Gamar: Assalaam waliekum. <br />I think the reason why hijab is discussed with passion is because it's something that every Muslimah is familiar it and like my husband says very frankly: "It's getting to the point where nobody wants to wear it anymore. They want to fit in with the non-Muslims."<br />I can understand his point due to the fact I wear abayas, khimars, and other stuff that some fashionable Muslimahs consider "old-fashioned". <br />It amazes me how some women (non-Muslim or Muslim)think they can't function straight because they are wearing one extra hand-length of cloth. <br />The All American Muslim show was the example of misguidance in full swing. Alhamdiallah, it only aired eight episodes.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04103922717518728513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-75372486285142454802012-06-12T09:28:41.145+01:002012-06-12T09:28:41.145+01:00The haram police are everywhere, sadly enough, hid...The haram police are everywhere, sadly enough, hiding behind their computers. I have to admit it is frustrating seeing hijabis with skintight clothes on, with their necks showing, but at the end of the day at least they won't be hung by each strand of their hair, inshallah? Instead of criticizing them on the internet, we should make dua'a for them. Allah knows best.your eyes are countrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06210109253484134831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-7127190069807747972012-06-12T02:30:11.895+01:002012-06-12T02:30:11.895+01:00@Gail,I agree to an extend that if a CLEAR WRONG i...@Gail,I agree to an extend that if a CLEAR WRONG is being publicize as HALAL then advising publicly online is also needed as millions are exposed to the Internet and new-comers could easily be influenced. It is alarming that nowadays, Muslims and non Muslims alike are spreading falsehood about Islam. On the other hand, why oh why is Hijab being discussed with so much aggression and pursuit??!Ya Sater,until when are we going to look at other more dire causes like helping the needy, raising good children, being kind to our parents (these are all important issues in building a strong ummah).<br /><br />P/s- How I dislike the All American Muslim show, for reasons that are so obvious.Affinity for Modestyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07910466986019706458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-58527002096444944622012-06-11T10:39:40.973+01:002012-06-11T10:39:40.973+01:00RuaNour: I also really hate that about the sisters...RuaNour: I also really hate that about the sisters not even smiling to return a Salam. It's such a big thing in Islam, don't understand why they wouldn't do it. Anyway, well done for putting your hijab back on, may Allah (SWT) reward you :) <br /><br />Salam xStylishMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04757465398662688932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-17805580089261818052012-06-11T09:22:05.919+01:002012-06-11T09:22:05.919+01:00I actually just finished posting about this on Din...I actually just finished posting about this on Dina Tokio's facebook page. Advise should be given in private if you sincerely care. I also believe that no one is perfect, so don't point fingers, negativity or rude comments do nothing for both parties involved. Also, I dislike the term haram police because (to me anyway) its belittling something within our religion I see that people laugh when they say "Haram Police". Everyone should be responsible for their deeds what they do on this earth, and if you sincerely care for someone, don't put them down, don't criticize but advise privately and kindly. I started wearing hijab a while back, right after I started getting into my religion, and for some reason anytime I said salam 3laykom to any sister, I didnt even get a smile back... And one day I went home and I was like what sisters... there is nothing like that and took off my hijab... but al7amdillah Im wearing it now and I realize that not everyone is perfect and not everyone will do what is in our Sunnah correctly so we should all just be a little kinder and invest time in perfecting our akhlaq and strengthening our iman before we can humilate others. Lastly, I think it's wrong for someone to say this is Haram and this is Halal mean while it's just their opinion.<br /><br />قال الله تعالى: {قل إنما حرم ربي الفواحش ما ظهر منها وما بطن والإثم والبغي بغير الحق وأن تشركوا بالله ما لم ينزل به سلطاناً وأن تقولوا على الله ما لا تعلمون}RuaNourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01330176500974338746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-87314283725124810612012-06-11T00:00:07.840+01:002012-06-11T00:00:07.840+01:00Fatima: LOL I enjoyed reading all your comments to...Fatima: LOL I enjoyed reading all your comments today. Someone is seriously procrastinating xD<br /><br />Gail: I sort of agree with you. The only time I would ever call someone out publicly is if they were making false claims about Islam, not if they were simply doing something wrong - especially regarding hijab. What we sometimes fail to realise is that the vast majority of hijabis already know what they have to cover, but we all choose to cover to different extents. Anyway, I think we should be focusing on bettering ourselves rather than belittling others.<br /><br />Salam xStylishMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04757465398662688932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-55476712387151990622012-06-10T23:45:18.664+01:002012-06-10T23:45:18.664+01:00@Stylish Muslimah
Assalaam waliekum.
You are righ...@Stylish Muslimah<br />Assalaam waliekum. <br />You are right. My husband directed me here:<br />http://abdurrahman.org/seerah/riyad/00/chap028.htm<br />Of course, I wouldn't want to put the sins of my fellows on burst. However if they know what they are doing wrong plus they publicize it; that's their issue and they can't be surprised when people give them bad commentary on what they are doing. <br />Now, I understand where you are coming from with this. You are coming at it from the perspective of hijab poofs, heels, convertible scarves (which I'm like whatever about) until a sister tries to justify her wearing of that stuff. I'm coming from the view of Muslims who promote clear wrongdoing online like they being all proud about celebrating Christmas, making their own interpretations of the Quran celebrating the Prophet pbuh's birthday with birthday cakes and other Western birthday things etc. I still stand by speaking out against whose who post misleading things online publicly.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04103922717518728513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-54022727999479186032012-06-10T22:52:52.392+01:002012-06-10T22:52:52.392+01:00Okay so this is soooo off, but the picture scared ...Okay so this is soooo off, but the picture scared me...**ahhh**<br />Anywho, I think the way this should have been handled is not to have gone ahead and acted condescending, but to have informed the muslimah that hijab covers the neck. If you are truly the scarf wearing hijabi, then you WOULD cover the neck. What I mean is, you know, I have seen "hijabis" who wear the tightest clothes and everything and then another who doesnt wear hijab but loosely clothes. I think we can decide for ourselves who the true hijabi is.Fatimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11364545765027494552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-16148471054584369852012-06-10T15:52:36.764+01:002012-06-10T15:52:36.764+01:00Assalamu alaikum sister! I liked your post. It is ...Assalamu alaikum sister! I liked your post. It is a big trend of haram polices nowadays. If you want to advice someone it should be done in a nice way and privately- so not to cause any embarassement for that person. They way you deliver your advice is very important. It's important not to scare people away from Islam. Be soft in your manners with other people and (Inch Allah) Allah will treat you softly on the day of judgement. One thing I don't understand is why so many muslim men post "advices" publically on youtube hijab videos concerning the hijab faults they found with that girl/woman. Why in the first place are men watching those kind of videos, which are made by muslim women for muslim women, they are busy with acting as haram polices but somehow they forgot their obligatory duty of lowering their gaze.Rachidahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13885488369142103882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-16801935508779697562012-06-10T13:38:41.002+01:002012-06-10T13:38:41.002+01:00Anon + Arezu: Glad you liked! :)
Salam xAnon + Arezu: Glad you liked! :)<br /><br />Salam xStylishMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04757465398662688932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-35462505039172479642012-06-10T12:16:37.628+01:002012-06-10T12:16:37.628+01:00I totally agree with your post sister.
XO ArezuI totally agree with your post sister.<br /><br />XO ArezuMy Own Fairytalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185980363492365314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-3676074369899124722012-06-10T12:02:25.363+01:002012-06-10T12:02:25.363+01:00One of my favourite posts! Brilliant. xOne of my favourite posts! Brilliant. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-86376064784240982852012-06-10T11:28:03.558+01:002012-06-10T11:28:03.558+01:00Gail: The Prophet (S) once said that we should cov...Gail: The Prophet (S) once said that we should cover up the sins of others in this life so that Allah (SWT) may cover up our sins on judgement day. <br /><br />Huda: No not at all! :)<br /><br />qatheworld: Yes I'm speaking up now but I'm not talking about individual people, therefore nobody is being called out. It's OK to talk about general things but not about individual people.<br /><br />Salam xStylishMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04757465398662688932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-77366360842755073002012-06-10T09:42:05.420+01:002012-06-10T09:42:05.420+01:00I don't necessarily think that every item of a...I don't necessarily think that every item of advice must be given in private and we never speak up when seeing something wrong, though I don't think that's what you're saying. You are speaking up now in fact about not giving advice badly and tossing haram around! :) <br /><br />Absolutely, we are not supposed to make haram anything that Allah did not make haram. There are many things we are told to do in Islam where if we don't do it, it's not doing "haram", there are different levels. Some things are more important than others. For example, eating pork is specifically mentioned as haram (along with other types of animals such as those with talons and fangs, which nobody ever seems to mention even though some people do in fact eat such animals). However we are also not supposed to stuff ourselves with any kind of food, as one hadith says we leave 1/3 for food, 1/3 for water, and 1/3 for air. However this does NOT mean that if you stuff yourself at dinner it's "haram." It's not good, but it's not "haram" because Allah did not say it was haram. <br /><br />I have heard MANY people make comments, including in person, to the effect that "if this person is not going to wear the hijab properly she shouldn't wear it at all, it reflects badly on muslims." I find this whole attitude disturbing. This is like saying, "if she's going to wear that skimpy bikini, she might as well just go naked, we can see everything." Which I've also heard, in person. But obviously if you were to take this literally, it's NOT the same thing any more than it's the same if the woman goes naked on the beach instead of the skimpy bikini. People go through different stages of hijab sometimes in terms of what they think is okay. We each know what we think is "required" and I'm not talking about dressing to try to blend into the community (that would be a laugh since I live in a non-muslim-majority community). However since the idea is to cover, I think any amount of covering is better than no covering. Islam is not about absolutes. Would they say "if you're not going to fast the entire month without ever lapsing, you may as well not even try" to a new convert (another thing which is even MORE clearly required, and a "pillar" of Islam, which hijab is not) This was never the attitude of the prophet Mohammed pbuh. You do the best you can, you seek to improve, you ask forgiveness. Allah knows what is in your mind. Perfection is not expected. Striving for improvement is. Helping other people nicely is a bonus in which there is reward. Telling someone to take off their hijab because it's not up to par is the antithesis of that.qatheworldhttp://qatheworld.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-11290578815264872652012-06-10T06:15:14.006+01:002012-06-10T06:15:14.006+01:00@Stylish Muslimah
Well,I usually avoid doing sins ...@Stylish Muslimah<br />Well,I usually avoid doing sins or airing my dirty wash in publicly in reality or online. And I tend to wear proper hijab that covers everything but my face and hands because a woman's neck is part of her awrah and she does adorn it with pretty things. <br />The women of Pre-Islamic times would wear their hair, breast, necks, earrings, forearms and ankles out to look good despite them wearing the veil. <br />So most of the time, Muslimahs have no problem with me as far as what I tell or show them. Also me being corrected on a bus is not the same as being corrected online. And your bottom line to all this was the correcting online not in reality. <br />Public and Internet are two different spaces. Public calls for tact and kindness. With public situations, you can single out that person depending on the situation. Pull them to the side and tactfully correct them. Calling out someone on the Internet is needed at times, especially when the person is straight-up wrong about something. Singling out that person is not going to remedy or benefit the couple of thousands who read the post and think it's the truth. It's killing two birds with one stone: correcting the misguidance of the poster & correcting the trouble of the post.<br />Could you explain to me the "in Islam we should cover up people's sins"? <br />Now I definitely don't like the wrong,"well if you are not going to do that, then why just give up."<br />There's always a better way of correcting someone than that.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04103922717518728513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-70518512996225968472012-06-10T03:32:36.078+01:002012-06-10T03:32:36.078+01:00Please forgive me, Zainab, if this outburst was in...Please forgive me, Zainab, if this outburst was in anyway fueled by my wedges/heels comment on you last post. I can honestly say my comment was based off of sincerity. May Allah keep us all on the straight path.<br /><br /> - hudaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-76798548073772772202012-06-10T02:21:47.242+01:002012-06-10T02:21:47.242+01:00@Stylish Muslimah
First, I would be careful enough...@Stylish Muslimah<br />First, I would be careful enough to avoid airing my dirty wash in public for my Muslim brothers and sisters or for whoever to see. That's a trend among Muslims today that they think showing their sins in public is acceptable to make them more human to non-Muslims.<br />A good example being the All-American Muslim show, in which the Muslims on that show admitted and publicly aired with proud stuff like eating pork, having boyfriends, getting piercing & tattoos and not wearing hijab. Plus you have Muslimahs blowing up Youtube with justifications of them not wearing hijab. <br />This brings me to "...in Islam we should cover up people's sins", can you tell me more about that one? <br /><br />Second, being in public one-on-one with another human being is totally different from being on Blogger, Facebook etc. In public, you can be face to face with that person and they then know what the deal is. On the Internet, people can delete your private messages to correct them.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04103922717518728513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-52135747606245767692012-06-10T01:01:27.339+01:002012-06-10T01:01:27.339+01:00Gail: So would you find it acceptable if a Muslim ...Gail: So would you find it acceptable if a Muslim on the bus called you out in front of everyone because of something wrong that you were doing so that the people on the bus could "benefit" as well? I have to disagree with you on this, in Islam we should cover up people's sins, not publicly make an issue out of them.<br /><br />Salam xStylishMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04757465398662688932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-91601162694603863982012-06-10T00:22:58.635+01:002012-06-10T00:22:58.635+01:00Assalaam waliekum.
I have seen the word, "ha...Assalaam waliekum. <br />I have seen the word, "haraam" used ALOT and I don't like using it unless I know for a fact that the matter at hand is haraam. <br />I strongly believe in advising in public on online because what was said on the Internet can effect millions of people. And inahs'allah the issue is straight-up wrong, then privately advising the person who posted the comment is not going to help the few thousands who read it. <br />Most times, the poster don't care for what is said unless it's to agree with them. I have seen Muslims tell other Muslims and reverts some pretty twisted stuff.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04103922717518728513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-91755006683028701882012-06-09T18:24:59.516+01:002012-06-09T18:24:59.516+01:00Albie: Yes it is unfortunate :( Good to hear about...Albie: Yes it is unfortunate :( Good to hear about your hijab! Hope you're having a good experience with it do far :D <br /><br />Salam xStylishMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04757465398662688932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-11274190386838385342012-06-09T18:15:38.611+01:002012-06-09T18:15:38.611+01:00This makes me so sad :( I'm a revert Muslimah...This makes me so sad :( I'm a revert Muslimah living in the West, and I just started covering. I don't think that we should be judging one another's hijab at all -- and we especially shouldn't be saying bad things about other Muslims. "Say to My servants that they should only say those things that are best, for Satan does sow dissensions among them, for Satan is to man an avowed enemy. (17:53)"<br /><br />...if someone really wanted to give Naseeha, why wouldn't they just do it privately?? :( Sad day...Albiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17063953698217826925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997368929533232508.post-57004659436911235542012-06-09T17:59:10.015+01:002012-06-09T17:59:10.015+01:00Anon: I'm not linking it sorry. She had her ne...Anon: I'm not linking it sorry. She had her neck uncovered. We all know that the neck should be covered, hijabis don't need to be told.<br /><br />SalamStylishMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04757465398662688932noreply@blogger.com