18 August 2009

Hijabi Beginner: 5 Pros Of Hijab

As part of my 'Hijabi Beginner' posts, I decided to make a list of five of what I think are the main reasons a Muslimah should wear the hijab. When you are thinking about wearing it, so many things go around in your head so I hope the list makes it that bit easier to decide.

Before reading it, remember that the word 'hijab' in Arabic means 'barrier' not 'headscarf' or 'modest dress'. A barrier is something built not something that pops up automatically when you cover your hair with some material. So before you even think about covering your hair, make sure the foundations for a proper hijab are already in place in your life by the way you act, talk and dress especially around men.

1. Simply and most importantly because has Allah (SWT) ordered us to wear the hijab and to cover up. If you believe in Allah (SWT), you pray and do good deeds and wish to obey Him (SWT) then sooner or later you will feel the urge to wear hijab. If you don’t feel like this at all, you should focus on other, more fundamental parts of Islam like reading the Quran, prayer and even things like questioning the sort of effect the people you socialise with have on you and the way you act.


“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils (head coverings) over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment accept to their own husbands or fathers or husbands' fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, or women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed.”
[Al Nur: 30]

Note what is mentioned first in the Iya: the lowering of the gaze and acting modestly or the covering of the breasts?

2. Dressing modestly in a world where women (and men!) are sexualized a lot will get you more respect from people who may have otherwise just ‘checked you out’ treating you, consciously or subconsciously, as a commodity.
3. Although a daunting thought and often a deterrent for a women wishing to wear hijab in the Western world, people will automatically know that you are a Muslim. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing though! If you are a walking representation of your religion then show it in a good light by the way you act and deal with people; if you change just one person’s bad opinion of Islam the jobs a good’n!

4. Only the people you want to see your Awrah will see it, when your outfit leaves only little to the imagination get back to the drawing board, love. On a slightly more serious note, if your outfits really do lend an eyeful and you want to dress more Islamically, start by de-cluttering your wardrobe of the most revealing items you have and then focus on covering your breasts, waist, hips and then move onto longer sleeves and covering the thighs. You’ll be several steps closer to hijab :)

5. People judge you by your intellect, opinions and achievements instead of your quickly perishable looks and you’re conforming by attempting to replicate unreasonable beauty stereotypes seen in the media.

I could go on and on but remember, the most important reason is because we are told to do so by our Creator who knows us better than we know ourselves and so knows what is good for us and what isn’t (SWT). I’m not saying that the next time you go out you must be covered from head to toe, that’s ridiculous. Islam came to humans in small chunks at a time so they could take it in and adapt their lives easily and over a long period. This is what a Muslimah wanting to be a Hijabi should do, adapt her lifestyle and clothing to be suited to Islam and Hijab only then should she cover her hair. Hope this helps any budding hijabis! More coming soon Isha'Allah :D

10 comments:

Camillia said...

Salam sister, you're blog is one of my faves. It doesn't just give the "you must wear hijab and if your not then somethings wrong with you." feeling that I've seen & read. It has such a friendly and openminded vibe that adheres to all kinds of muslims. Thanks for all your posts.

Anonymous said...

Salam alaykum Stylish Muslimah, I agree with Camillia what she wrote,i like your blog very much. I don't wear hijab yet,but i try to cover my body like a hijabi,so your blog is very helpful as an inspiration.

StylishMuslimah said...

Camillia and Anon: Aww thanks guys! Im really glad you like it :D :D
Zaenab
xxx

Huda Syyed said...

Salam3laikum!
Wow, uve really brought it down easily for women strting to wear the hijab and its good :)
MashAllah!
Helpful too.

Anonymous said...

very good pointers, love your blog
check out mine hijabichica.blogspot

Michelle Yeung-Harmer said...

Asalamu alaikum sisters,

In addition to all that have already been mentioned, a further reason I love hijab is that it is true "girl power and sisterhood!" By wearing it and dressing modestly, we are:

- Preventing our sister's husbands from falling into sin of this nature because of us (just by looking in an innapropriate manner), and so protecting them from any hurt and distress these types of things cause.

- Not showing off our figures to other sisters, which in some cases could make them unnecessarily unsatisfied with their own

- We don't have to worry about the odd bad hair day!

Overall, observing hijab has made me, as I see it, A person for the first time in my life. Sounds strange I know, but I don't know how else to describe it, I feel like a person in my own right and I have begun to have a real view of what beauty really is...it's what Allah finds beautiful and is nothing to do with billboards etc. To me, style really is individual, it's about knowing what suits your figure, your age, the situation etc. I think modest dressing is the height of having style.

Zarita az said...

Assalamu'alaikum..
Masya'Allah...I really love your blog..it's so honest and close to me..
I'm Zarita from Malaysia and i've been dealing with hijabi issue since a couple of years ago.I was and still trying to find the real meaning of wearing it..i mean, deep in my heart sooner or later i want to be doing it sincerely for Allah and nothing but Him.
I've tried wearing it before and it lasted for about 2 years maybe but in the end when i found something wasn't right...i just follow my heart and took it off.(i probably wasn't sincere enough)
I mean when i was wearing hijab..i turned into the kind of person who feel like i'm better than those who doesn't wear it and sometimes i even pray because afraid of what others might say..like y'know..
a women with hijab but doesn't pray and things like that.
I'm not saying that those who wear hijab are all like that but it's just me, who's heart is so dirty with sins,unkindness and unsincerity.
Honestly sister, i came from a broken family with no Islamic guidance and i've been through all the bad things you could ever imagine but somehow Alhamdulillah..
I know He's always there for me thus it makes me grateful for all His blessings and i'm trying to be a better person and slave for Him.
At the moment i'm just gonna take one step at a time in my journey of reaching Him InsyaAllah, wish me all the best and pray for me Sister..
" Ilahi Anta Maqsudi Wa Redhaka Mathlubi"

StylishMuslimah said...

zarita: I really wish you all the best and Insha'Allah, putting on the hijab will be made easy for you.. just remember, its not the most important thing in islam by a long shot. Keep it up :D
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Anonymous said...

I really enjoyed browsing your website. I would love to one day wear the hijab, properly. I dress modestly anyway, I guess I only need to add a headscarf. But I know that just by adding that scarf I will be labelling myself as a "muslim", with all what that title bears in the western country where I live. The other concern that I have is that I am not yet apt to "represent" Islam, I am far from perfect, I learn from my immaturity and mistakes to become a better person, and I hope when I reach a certain degree of maturity, I will go ahead and wear that scarf and feel complete. I pray Allah every day, sincerely and I have faith in Allah and I pray for him to direct me in the right direction and keep me away from misguidance and bad things, everyday. So I just hope that one day I will wake up and decide that "today is the day to be complete". Do I make sense?

StylishMuslimah said...

Anon: You make complete sense :) I would say though, nobody can attain perfection so I would advise you to set a date by which you would like to be wearing the hijab. I did this and had I not I think I would still be waiting for the 'right time' :)

Good luck
xxxx