10 September 2014

Wishlist!

Well, more of a shopping list :D


A new laptop!! I'm thinking of jumping on the MacBook bandwagon as the reviews are really good and it looks cool but I'm not sure if it's worth it. Does anyone know of any good alternatives? I'm not studying anymore and have an iPad so only use my laptop for the internet, watching films and occasionally games and word processing. I've seen laptops for a couple hundred pounds with good reviews but I'm not sure. I currently have a Sony Vaio which served me well through university but it's dying on me :'(


Armani Mania perfume. One of the nicest perfumes I've ever smelt! I've re-bought it twice and need to stock up again.


Benefit They're Real mascara. If you're looking for the best mascara ever made, look no further. I've tried manyyy mascaras in my time and this is by far the best. Again, I need to repurchase.


Work clothes! Sooo alhamduli'Allah I got a job recently which insha'Allah I'll be starting in a couple of weeks (eek!). And a new job means a new wardrobe, right? I am planning to go on a *little* shopping spree next week. Maybe I'll show you guys the stuff in a haul post :D


A silver watch. I'm really liking this one. I have it in gold but it looks just as awesome in silver..



This River Island peplum jacket.. I LOVE it! Hope it's still in stock next time I'm there!



A cat ^-^ I actually really want a puppy but the rents wouldn't ever let me. Cats are the next best thing though and they're so bloody cute!


Ahhhhhh!!! Cuteness overload!!

Anyway! Does anyone have any laptop recommendations? Or shall I just get a MacBook?

02 September 2014

Rest in peace Steven Sotloff.

The global silence of the Sunni sect is defeaning. Considering it is those of the Sunni sect who are committing these atrocious acts of murder in Iraq and Syria I would have thought there would be an uproar around the world of Sunnis condemning ISIS. But apparently it's only fashionable to wear Gaza wristbands and condemn Starbucks these days.

I hope Allah (swt) grants Steven Sotloff, and everyone else murdered by ISIS, martyrdom. Insha'Allah the end is near for ISIS and all those who support them, be it openly or in their hearts.

01 September 2014

Feminism and misandry


I've wanted to bring up this subject for a while but have held off as almost every female I speak to proclaims herself as a 'feminist', I'm starting to wonder if there are actually any females out there at all that see the massive flaw, coupled with the healthy dosing of hypocrisy, in the feminist ideology. 

Here I present a list of reasons I would never identify as a feminist in the Western world.

1. Equality Feminists believe that women do not have political, cultural, economic or social equality with men and that they must fight in order to attain this. In the Western world this goal has already been attained. To argue that women in the West don't have all the opportunities that men have and most of the time have things a lot easier, is laughable. In addition the very idea that the feminist moral compass only permits them to fight for female equality as opposed to human equality in general makes them lose even more credibility. 

2. Pay gap Feminists will often complain about the so-called 'gender pay gap'. In reality, women are more likely to choose to work fewer hours throughout their working lives, lowering the average (mean) wage of women. Women take maternity leave, and shock-horror, many choose to raise their own children. Men are twice as likely to work more than 40 hours per week as women, that is a fact. When you apply for a job the wage is fixed and advertised before interviewing, it does not change when a women gets that job. 

3. Objectification There is a belief amongst feminist that men are perverts who 'objectify' and degrade women. This viewpoint is constantly pushed everywhere in the media. What does 'objectify' mean anyway? "To reduce a person to the status of a mere object to be used" - this word is thrown around far too much by feminists to accuse men of being perverted; I see it as the result of the highly negative portrayal of male heterosexuality that has been over-taking the Western world for decades. 

It has gotten so bad that studies have found most men would be extremely reluctant to help a lost child or woman in need of help for fear of being suspected as a pervert. Simply put, if a man looks at a woman that the woman doesn't find attractive then he is a pervert, but if she thinks he is good looking then he is flattering. Who is really being objectified in this case? As for women being used to sell things in the media, they are not being forced, it is their choice to show or to cover up their bodies. Plus there are many occasions where male bodies have been used to sell things targeted at females. 

4. Media portrayal "Women are always sexual objects in the media blah blah blah wah wah wah". All you have to do is look at films and stereotypical characters in programmes to see that the vast majority of the time the 'villain' is a male, the attractive 'victim' is the female and the sweet, lovable character is the (feminine) gay guy. In addition, there is a huge about of double-standards and hypocrisy in what is acceptable for men to be portrayed as verses women. For example, it is completely normal for men to be portrayed as dirty, lazy idiots (and often, animals) in adverts and programmes and for the woman to be the sensible one that is clean and pro-active. Examples below. 




Imagine if those adverts were switched around for the woman to look like an idiot? Feminists would be the first to complain and get these adverts banned. But if men are portrayed in this way, they are expected to not complain and if they do, they're told to quit winging and 'man-up', probably by feminists. If feminists truly wanted equality, they would be just as pissed off by these sorts of negative portrayals of a single gender. 

Also, imagine having an advertising campaign for men like the Dove one for natural beauty with a bunch of overweight men in boxers talking about body-confidence? It'd be laughable. But for women, it's encouraged and woe to the man that criticizes it. 

5. Violence towards men vs. towards women If a man hits a woman he's a swine and deserves punishment. If a woman hits a man, she was probably just defending herself and she should be congratulated. Violence is never right, for either gender but feminists don't care about violence towards men. And the reality is that violence towards men committed by women is not less prevalent than the other way around, but men are less likely to report it or to be visibly injured by it. Why does society accept women's violence?



6. Value Feminists might complain that women are objectified and degraded by men and that their value is based directly on the way they look but the value of men is related directly to how 'useful' they are in society and how much they are willing to put the female life ahead of theirs. Almost everyone in the world will have heard of the phrase 'women and children', in wars, accidents, emergencies and famine the life of the woman and the child automatically takes precedence over that of the man. What's more, men are expected to put the life of females before theirs, always, and the man that doesn't he is a worthless, selfish individual. By simply being a woman, you have more of a right to life than a man. Not convinced? Who would the majority of people save first from a burning building if there was a man and a woman trapped inside?

To conclude, feminism in somewhere like Afghanistan is great but in the West feminism is just a way to promote hateful degradation of masculinity and to forge yet another group of 'victims' to be positively discriminated and given special attention. Want to be treated like a man? Stop winging like a woman then. :)

24 August 2014

My top 6 favourite films of all time!

6. The Help (2011) almost as good as the book. Excellent actors all round.

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5. Toy Story (1995) - no commentary necessary.
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4. Harry Potter (2001-2011) - the books are definitely better, but the films are pretty awesome! I'm sort of glad that Chris Columbus only directed the first two; I like David Yates' take on the last four films the most. Although at times some of the acting was a bit wooden I think Rupert Grint, Ralph Fiennes, Micheal Gambon and Helena Bonham Carter always did an excellent job.

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3. Atonement (2007) - a heart-wrenching, beautiful love story. I think what really makes this a great film is the excellent choice of actors, especially the child and young-adult Bryony.

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2. The Hobbit (2012-2013) - Desolation of Smaug and An Unexpected Journey. I was happy when I heard that Peter Jackson (director of The Lord of the Rings) was directing these films, I knew then that they'd be amazing and they did not disappoint. I cannot wait until December for The Battle of Five Armies to come out!

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1. The Lord of the Rings (2001-2003) - I've lost count of how many times I've watched these films and I'm still not sick of them. I can't fault a single moment in the entire trilogy, or any of the actors - I love it all :D If I had to pick one as my favourite, it would probably The Fellowship of The Ring.

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It was quite difficult reducing it down to just 6 as there's loads more that I like but these are definitely ones I've watched at least several times :D What are your favourite films of all time?

22 August 2014

10 August 2014

How are Muslims justifying their abhorrent violence towards others?


Everyday I open up a paper and dread the people of my own religion more and more. Iraq, Syria, Yemen, Pakistan, it seems that no Muslim country is free of death, destruction and blood-shed. Why? This cannot simply be an exaggerated western media construct attempt to defame Islam - if Muslims were not doing such things, the media wouldn't have a story to exaggerate.

Why are 'extreme' Muslims so violent and blood-thirsty? I would have thought that someone who becomes an extremist in a religion of peace would become extremely peaceful. How are these people using verses of the Quran and ahadith to justify the killing of innocent people? Complied nearly 200 years after the death of the Prophet (s), ahadith, even the apparently "sahih" ones could quite easily be disregarded when trying to explain how the actions of these people are not actually related to the teachings of Islam. But what about the Quran? What verses are these people using to justify crucifying, maiming, torturing and raping other human beings, both Muslim and non-Muslim? 

I read a few days ago about teenagers from the west running away from their homes and getting into Syria to fight 'jihad' and apparently restore an "Islamic state" of Iraq and Syria, GOD FORBID, with the literal scum of the earth, Da'ish (ISIS) - they'd recently purchased 'Islam for Dummies' and 'Quran for Dummies' on Amazon. Or the stupid teenage girls running off to be 'jihadi brides' in Syria, a union not recognised by Islam, forged by sick men who only see women as objects of their pleasure. 

Meanwhile in Iraq, a once beautiful, free country where people of many religions lived together in harmony has been over taken by these backward, barbaric animals who use Islam to justify the burying alive of humans (women and children), raping of women and murdering of men. Not only that but they drive people out of their homes, disrespect the dead as much as the living, defacing ancient graves of Prophets and tearing down houses of worship. Destructive, disgusting, merciless scum worthy only of a public hanging. 

And not forgetting the Muslims all over the world voicing their support for these nasty people. It's funny, I've noticed so many of them aren't from these two countries, and more to the point, not even Arab. What would they truly know or care of the suffering created at the hands of ISIS? As long as they can carry on tweeting and growing their beards and wearing their abayas and showing up for Friday prayers in their comfortable Western countries from which they DEMAND respect of their beliefs and culture, what do they truly know or care of the pain of others? They simply spew hatred and poison towards any person who dares live their life differently, even if they aren't doing anyone any harm. They show their outrage at Israel but where is their condemnation when it is the Muslims committing crimes so atrocious that Al Qaeda have distanced themselves from them?

How about these western Muslims that support terrorists go back to their own countries and try instilling a bit of change there..? 

Verily! Those who believe and those who are Jews and Christians, and Sabians and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day and does righteous, good deeds shall have their reward with their Lord, on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.

[Surat Al-Baqarah:62]

One thing I'm 100% sure of, as cliche as it is, the actions of Muslims never have and never will represent the true, beautiful, peaceful teachings of the Quran and the Prophet (s). 

30 July 2014

Thoughts on A Thousand Splendid Suns



I just finished this book and am in love. It's just as good as - or perhaps better than - the Kite Runner, a story I did not at all expect the author to top. If you haven't read this book, I highly recommend it!

The story covers a period of time from the 1960s all the way to post 9/11 Afghanistan and follows the lives of two very different Afghani females whose lives suddenly become intertwined in the most tragic of circumstances. Together they endure relentless suffering and experience the most acute kinds of pain, loss and sacrifice. Despite it's heart-wrenching storyline, I think that the underpinning themes of the book are of human-resilience, both physical and mental, the ability to display love in the harshest of environments, and most importantly, the power of hope.

I couldn't rate this book any less than 10/10. 

P.S. Eid Mubarek! :D

26 May 2014

"The son of Adam will not be dismissed from before his Lord on the Day of Resurrection until he has been questioned about five things: his life and how he spent it, his youth and how he used it, his wealth and how he earned it and spent it, and how he acted upon what he acquired of knowledge."

Prophet Muhammed (S)

24 April 2014

Thoughts on Hijabi Mipsterz?

I quite like the video and some of the styles in it. It would be interesting to know what your thoughts are. Judging by the comments on the video, it's very mixed, but are people just over-reacting to something that seems like a bit of harmless fun?

13 April 2014

Smart hijab tip #3: Dress + boots

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A really simple and easy way to create a smart outfit for work is to pair a dress of knee length or longer with black jeans and high boots. Something along the lines of the following outfits but perhaps without the massive head things and weird accessories. 



I put together a Polyvore outfit for inspiration.. 


Smart Hijab Style

06 April 2014

Is not offering a non-pork alternative in schools that big of a deal?


There has been a bit of a stir in France over the past couple of days regarding the news that schools in areas where the National Front party has political leadership will no longer offer children a halal meat alternative to pork. 

In all honesty I was more surprised that some parents are actually complaining about this decision than anything else. When I was at school the last thing my parents would have expected was for the school to offer me a halal meat alternative - eating a vegetarian lunch was simply never an issue for me. As far as I can remember, I, like most of the non-Muslim children, had a packed lunch everyday, and on days I was allowed to eat a hot meal at school I was more than happy with chip-Fridays. 

Foreigners in any country should have a natural acceptance that they are foreign and should not expect, or demand, that the country that they are living in caters to their lifestyle. When Muslims choose to live in any country but their own they must learn to adapt their own lives and never expect others to adapt to theirs. 

I feel as though some Muslims are forgetting that they are foreigners in the Western countries they are living in, so much so that they forget that the native people have their own cultures and ways that they wish to preserve. This does not mean they are racist, it just means they don't want to see their culture slipping away, diluted or replaced by something foreign.

I am very grateful when I see halal shops or mosques in the UK, and I'm happy that I am allowed to work with a headscarf on but by no means do I except these things to available without question or as part of some 'right' that I have in this country. We must remember that we are, and always will be, foreign and if you do not like the laws of a land, nobody is forcing you to live there. 

02 February 2014

Why I am not blogging

Someone asked me why I am not blogging as much anymore these days so I thought I'd just explain it in a post. 

When I started blogging 5 years ago I did not wear the hijab and there were very few hijabi bloggers out there. I started it as a way to encourage myself to put it on more than anything else. When I saw comments and visits on my posts I thought it was pretty cool and I just carried on for a couple of years, during which time I finally put on the hijab. 

The main point of this blog was about hijab fashion and I feel I have covered a lot of ground over 5 years that there isn't much left for me to blog about. In addition there are now so many hijabi bloggers and YouTubers and Instagramers out there that the market has changed and become saturated and my interest in it all has plummeted. As well as growing in number, what people want from fashion sites these days are selfies and OOTDs and food pictures - there is nothing wrong with this but they are things that don't interest me. I actually tried setting up an Instagram and posted a few things on there but I felt like it's not me. 

I thought about making the blog more personal and just posting about random things that happen to me but I wasn't sure if anyone would actually find this interesting. I also considered making it just about Islamic subjects but was also unsure. I'm in a bit of a predicament about which direction I should steer this blog and as a result have just abandoned it all together. 

I will try to blog more often, but I'm just not sure what about :S