30 June 2010

For The LAST Time.. The Prophet Muhammed (S) Did NOT Marry A Child

If I have to explain this to one more person..!!! I had some ignorant Anonymous write the most disgusting and offensive comment on here the other day which basically accused our beloved, perfect Prophet (S) of being a (p...).
So, I'm going to give you the evidence, clear as day, to prove that he did NOT marry Aisha when she was 6 and consummate when she was 9. It goes against logic, it's a filthy lie invented to make him (S) and Islam look bad. I mean for crying out loud, he married a women 15 years older than him and stayed faithful to her when he was 25 - at his prime. And all his other wives were far older than 25 so why would he suddenly marry this 6 year old? It's sick and if there was evidence that it were true, I would never believe such a man was a Prophet of Allah (SWT).

(The article below was taken from this website)

The Ancient Myth Exposed
by T.O. Shanavas

A Christian friend asked me once, “Will you marry your seven year old daughter to a fifty year old man?” I kept my silence. He continued, “If you would not, how can you approve the marriage of an innocent seven year old, Ayesha, with your Prophet?” I told him, “I don’t have an answer to your question at this time.” My friend smiled and left me with a thorn in the heart of my faith. Most Muslims answer that such marriages were accepted in those days. Otherwise, people would have objected to Prophet’s marriage with Ayesha.

However, such an explanation would be gullible only for those who are naive enough to believe it. But unfortunately, I was not satisfied with the answer.

The Prophet was an exemplary man. All his actions were most virtuous so that we, Muslims, can emulate them. However, most people in our Islamic Center of Toledo, including me, would not think of betrothing our seven years daughter to a fifty-two year-old man. If a parent agrees to such a wedding, most people, if not all, would look down upon the father and the old husband.

In 1923, registrars of marriage in Egypt were instructed not to register and issue official certificates of marriage for brides less than sixteen and grooms less than eighteen years of age. Eight years later, the Law of the Organization and Procedure of Sheriah courts of 1931 consolidated the above provision by not hearing the marriage disputes involving brides less than sixteen and grooms less than eighteen years old. (Women in Muslim Family Law, John Esposito, 1982). It shows that even in the Muslim majority country of Egypt the child marriages are unacceptable.

So, I believed, without solid evidence other than my reverence to my Prophet, that the stories of the marriage of seven-year-old Ayesha to 50-year-old Prophet are only myths. However, my long pursuit in search of the truth on this matter proved my intuition correct. My Prophet was a gentleman. And he did not marry an innocent seven or nine year old girl. The age of Ayesha has been erroneously reported in the hadith literature. Furthermore, I think that the narratives reporting this event are highly unreliable. Some of the hadith (traditions of the Prophet) regarding Ayesha’s age at the time of her wedding with prophet are problematic. I present the following evidences against the acceptance of the fictitious story by Hisham ibn ‘Urwah and to clear the name of my Prophet as an irresponsible old man preying on an innocent little girl.

EVIDENCE #1: Reliability of Source

Most of the narratives printed in the books of hadith are reported only by Hisham ibn `Urwah, who was reporting on the authority of his father. First of all, more people than just one, two or three should logically have reported. It is strange that no one from Medina, where Hisham ibn `Urwah lived the first 71 years of his life narrated the event, despite the fact that his Medinan pupils included the well-respected Malik ibn Anas. The origins of the report of the narratives of this event are people from Iraq, where Hisham is reported to have shifted after living in Medina for most of his life.

Tehzibu’l-Tehzib, one of the most well known books on the life and reliability of the narrators of the traditions of the Prophet, reports that according to Yaqub ibn Shaibah: “He [Hisham] is highly reliable, his narratives are acceptable, except what he narrated after moving over to Iraq” (Tehzi’bu’l-tehzi’b, Ibn Hajar Al-`asqala’ni, Dar Ihya al-turath al-Islami, 15th century. Vol 11, p. 50).

It further states that Malik ibn Anas objected on those narratives of Hisham which were reported through people in Iraq: “I have been told that Malik objected on those narratives of Hisham which were reported through people of Iraq” (Tehzi’b u’l-tehzi’b, Ibn Hajar Al-`asqala’ni, Dar Ihya al-turath al-Islami, Vol.11, p. 50).

Mizanu’l-ai`tidal, another book on the life sketches of the narrators of the traditions of the Prophet reports: “When he was old, Hisham’s memory suffered quite badly” (Mizanu’l-ai`tidal, Al-Zahbi, Al-Maktabatu’l-athriyyah, Sheikhupura, Pakistan, Vol. 4, p. 301).

CONCLUSION: Based on these references, Hisham’s memory was failing and his narratives while in Iraq were unreliable. So, his narrative of Ayesha’s marriage and age are unreliable.

CHRONOLOGY: It is vital also to keep in mind some of the pertinent dates in the history of Islam:

pre-610 CE: Jahiliya (pre-Islamic age) before revelation
610 CE: First revelation
610 CE: AbuBakr accepts Islam
613 CE: Prophet Muhammad begins preaching publicly.
615 CE: Emigration to Abyssinia
616 CE: Umar bin al Khattab accepts Islam
620 CE: Generally accepted betrothal of Ayesha to the Prophet
622 CE: Hijrah (emigation to Yathrib, later renamed Medina)
623/624 CE: Generally accepted year of Ayesha living with the Prophet

EVIDENCE #2: The Betrothal

According to Tabari (also according to Hisham ibn ‘Urwah, Ibn Hunbal and Ibn Sad), Ayesha was betrothed at seven years of age and began to cohabit with the Prophet at the age of nine years.

However, in another work, Al-Tabari says: “All four of his [Abu Bakr’s] children were born of his two wives during the pre-Islamic period” (Tarikhu’l-umam wa’l-mamlu’k, Al-Tabari (died 922), Vol. 4, p. 50, Arabic, Dara’l-fikr, Beirut, 1979).

If Ayesha was betrothed in 620 CE (at the age of seven) and started to live with the Prophet in 624 CE (at the age of nine), that would indicate that she was born in 613 CE and was nine when she began living with the Prophet. Therefore, based on one account of Al-Tabari, the numbers show that Ayesha must have born in 613 CE, three years after the beginning of revelation (610 CE). Tabari also states that Ayesha was born in the pre-Islamic era (in Jahiliya). If she was born before 610 CE, she would have been at least 14 years old when she began living with the Prophet. Essentially, Tabari contradicts himself.

CONCLUSION: Al-Tabari is unreliable in the matter of determining Ayesha’s age.

EVIDENCE # 3: The Age of Ayesha in Relation to the Age of Fatima

According to Ibn Hajar, “Fatima was born at the time the Ka`bah was rebuilt, when the Prophet was 35 years old... she was five years older that Ayesha” (Al-isabah fi tamyizi’l-sahabah, Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani, Vol. 4, p. 377, Maktabatu’l-Riyadh al-haditha, al-Riyadh, 1978).

If Ibn Hajar’s statement is factual, Ayesha was born when the Prophet was 40 years old. If Ayesha was married to the Prophet when he was 52 years old, Ayesha’s age at marriage would be 12 years.

CONCLUSION: Ibn Hajar, Tabari an Ibn Hisham and Ibn Humbal contradict each other. So, the marriage of Ayesha at seven years of age is a myth.

EVIDENCE #4: Ayesha’s Age in relation to Asma’s Age

According to Abda’l-Rahman ibn abi zanna’d: “Asma was 10 years older than Ayesha (Siyar A`la’ma’l-nubala’, Al-Zahabi, Vol. 2, p. 289, Arabic, Mu’assasatu’l-risalah, Beirut, 1992).

According to Ibn Kathir: “She [Asma] was elder to her sister [Ayesha] by 10 years” (Al-Bidayah wa’l-nihayah, Ibn Kathir, Vol. 8, p. 371, Dar al-fikr al-`arabi, Al-jizah, 1933).

According to Ibn Kathir: “She [Asma] saw the killing of her son during that year [73 AH], as we have already mentioned, and five days later she herself died. According to other narratives, she died not after five days but 10 or 20, or a few days over 20, or 100 days later. The most well known narrative is that of 100 days later. At the time of her death, she was 100 years old.” (Al-Bidayah wa’l-nihayah, Ibn Kathir, Vol. 8, p. 372, Dar al-fikr al-`arabi, Al-jizah, 1933)

According to Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani: “She [Asma] lived a hundred years and died in 73 or 74 AH.” (Taqribu’l-tehzib, Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani, p. 654, Arabic, Bab fi’l-nisa’, al-harfu’l-alif, Lucknow).

According to almost all the historians, Asma, the elder sister of Ayesha was 10 years older than Ayesha. If Asma was 100 years old in 73 AH, she should have been 27 or 28 years old at the time of the hijrah.

If Asma was 27 or 28 years old at the time of hijrah, Ayesha should have been 17 or 18 years old. Thus, Ayesha, being 17 or 18 years of at the time of Hijra, she started to cohabit with the Prophet between at either 19 to 20 years of age.

Based on Hajar, Ibn Katir, and Abda’l-Rahman ibn abi zanna’d, Ayesha’s age at the time she began living with the Prophet would be 19 or 20. In Evidence # 3, Ibn Hajar suggests that Ayesha was 12 years old and in Evidence #4 he contradicts himself with a 17 or 18-year-old Ayesha. What is the correct age, twelve or eighteen?

CONCLUSION: Ibn Hajar is an unreliable source for Ayesha’s age.

EVIDENCE #5: The Battles of Badr and Uhud

A narrative regarding Ayesha’s participation in Badr is given in the hadith of Muslim, (Kitabu’l-jihad wa’l-siyar, Bab karahiyati’l-isti`anah fi’l-ghazwi bikafir). Ayesha, while narrating the journey to Badr and one of the important events that took place in that journey, says: “when we reached Shajarah”. Obviously, Ayesha was with the group travelling towards Badr. A narrative regarding Ayesha’s participation in the Battle of Uhud is given in Bukhari (Kitabu’l-jihad wa’l-siyar, Bab Ghazwi’l-nisa’ wa qitalihinna ma`a’lrijal): “Anas reports that on the day of Uhud, people could not stand their ground around the Prophet. [On that day,] I saw Ayesha and Umm-i-Sulaim, they had pulled their dress up from their feet [to avoid any hindrance in their movement].” Again, this indicates that Ayesha was present in the Battles of Uhud and Badr.

It is narrated in Bukhari (Kitabu’l-maghazi, Bab Ghazwati’l-khandaq wa hiya’l-ahza’b): “Ibn `Umar states that the Prophet did not permit me to participate in Uhud, as at that time, I was 14 years old. But on the day of Khandaq, when I was 15 years old, the Prophet permitted my participation.”

Based on the above narratives, (a) the children below 15 years were sent back and were not allowed to participate in the Battle of Uhud, and (b) Ayesha participated in the Battles of Badr and Uhud

CONCLUSION: Ayesha’s participation in the Battles of Badr and Uhud clearly indicates that she was not nine years old but at least 15 years old. After all, women used to accompany men to the battlefields to help them, not to be a burden on them. This account is another contradiction regarding Ayesha’s age.

EVIDENCE #6: Surat al-Qamar (The Moon)

According to the generally accepted tradition, Ayesha was born about eight years before hijrah. But according to another narrative in Bukhari, Ayesha is reported to have said: “I was a young girl (jariyah in Arabic)” when Surah Al-Qamar was revealed (Sahih Bukhari, kitabu’l-tafsir, Bab Qaulihi Bal al-sa`atu Maw`iduhum wa’l-sa`atu adha’ wa amarr).

Chapter 54 of the Quran was revealed eight years before hijrah (The Bounteous Koran, M.M. Khatib, 1985), indicating that it was revealed in 614 CE. If Ayesha started living with the Prophet at the age of nine in 623 CE or 624 CE, she was a newborn infant (sibyah in Arabic) at the time that Surah Al-Qamar (The Moon) was revealed. According to the above tradition, Ayesha was actually a young girl, not an infant in the year of revelation of Al-Qamar. Jariyah means young playful girl (Lane’s Arabic English Lexicon). So, Ayesha, being a jariyah not a sibyah (infant), must be somewhere between 6-13 years old at the time of revelation of Al-Qamar, and therefore must have been 14-21 years at the time she married the Prophet.

CONCLUSION: This tradition also contradicts the marriage of Ayesha at the age of nine.

EVIDENCE #7: Arabic Terminology

According to a narrative reported by Ahmad ibn Hanbal, after the death of the Prophet’s first wife Khadijah, when Khaulah came to the Prophet advising him to marry again, the Prophet asked her regarding the choices she had in mind. Khaulah said: “You can marry a virgin (bikr) or a woman who has already been married (thayyib)”. When the Prophet asked the identity of the bikr (virgin), Khaulah mentioned Ayesha’s name.

All those who know the Arabic language are aware that the word bikr in the Arabic language is not used for an immature nine-year-old girl. The correct word for a young playful girl, as stated earlier, is jariyah. Bikr on the other hand, is used for an unmarried lady without conjugal experience prior to marriage, as we understand the word “virgin” in English. Therefore, obviously a nine-year-old girl is not a “lady” (bikr) (Musnad Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Vol. 6, p. .210, Arabic, Dar Ihya al-turath al-`arabi, Beirut).

CONCLUSION: The literal meaning of the word, bikr (virgin), in the above hadith is “adult woman with no sexual experience prior to marriage.” Therefore, Ayesha was an adult woman at the time of her marriage.

EVIDENCE #8. The Qur’anic Text

All Muslims agree that the Quran is the book of guidance. So, we need to seek the guidance from the Quran to clear the smoke and confusion created by the eminent men of the classical period of Islam in the matter of Ayesha’s age at her marriage. Does the Quran allow or disallow marriage of an immature child of seven years of age?

There are no verses that explicitly allow such marriage. There is a verse, however, that guides Muslims in their duty to raise an orphaned child. The Quran’s guidance on the topic of raising orphans is also valid in the case of our own children. The verse states: “And make not over your property (property of the orphan), which Allah had made a (means of) support for you, to the weak of understanding, and maintain them out of it, clothe them and give them good education. And test them until they reach the age of marriage. Then if you find them maturity of intellect, make over them their property...” (Quran, 4:5-6).

In the matter of children who have lost a parent, a Muslim is ordered to (a) feed them, (b) clothe them, (c) educate them, and (d) test them for maturity “until the age of marriage” before entrusting them with management of finances.

Here the Quranic verse demands meticulous proof of their intellectual and physical maturity by objective test results before the age of marriage in order to entrust their property to them.

In light of the above verses, no responsible Muslim would hand over financial management to a seven- or nine-year-old immature girl. If we cannot trust a seven-year-old to manage financial matters, she cannot be intellectually or physically fit for marriage. Ibn Hambal (Musnad Ahmad ibn Hambal, vol.6, p. 33 and 99) claims that nine-year-old Ayesha was rather more interested in playing with toy-horses than taking up the responsible task of a wife. It is difficult to believe, therefore, that AbuBakr, a great believer among Muslims, would betroth his immature seven-year-old daughter to the 50-year-old Prophet. Equally difficult to imagine is that the Prophet would marry an immature seven-year-old girl.

Another important duty demanded from the guardian of a child is to educate them. Let us ask the question, “How many of us believe that we can educate our children satisfactorily before they reach the age of seven or nine years?” The answer is none. Logically, it is an impossible task to educate a child satisfactorily before the child attains the age of seven. Then, how can we believe that Ayesha was educated satisfactorily at the claimed age of seven at the time of her marriage?

AbuBakr was a more judicious man than all of us. So, he definitely would have judged that Ayesha was a child at heart and was not satisfactorily educated as demanded by the Quran. He would not have married her to anyone. If a proposal of marrying the immature and yet to be educated seven-year-old Ayesha came to the Prophet, he would have rejected it outright because neither the Prophet nor AbuBakr would violate any clause in the Quran.

CONCLUSION: The marriage of Ayesha at the age of seven years would violate the maturity clause or requirement of the Quran. Therefore, the story of the marriage of the seven-year-old immature Ayesha is a myth.

EVIDENCE #9: Consent in Marriage

A women must be consulted and must agree in order to make a marriage valid (Mishakat al Masabiah, translation by James Robson, Vol. I, p. 665). Islamically, credible permission from women is a prerequisite for a marriage to be valid.

By any stretch of the imagination, the permission given by an immature seven-year-old girl cannot be valid authorization for marriage.

It is inconceivable that AbuBakr, an intelligent man, would take seriously the permission of a seven-year-old girl to marry a 50-year-old man.

Similarly, the Prophet would not have accepted the permission given by a girl who, according to the hadith of Muslim, took her toys with her when she went live with Prophet.

CONCLUSION: The Prophet did not marry a seven-year-old Ayesha because it would have violated the requirement of the valid permission clause of the Islamic Marriage Decree. Therefore, the Prophet married an intellectually and physically mature lady Ayesha.


It was neither an Arab tradition to give away girls in marriage at an age as young as seven or nine years, nor did the Prophet marry Ayesha at such a young age. The people of Arabia did not object to this marriage because it never happened in the manner it has been narrated.

Obviously, the narrative of the marriage of nine-year-old Ayesha by Hisham ibn `Urwah cannot be held true when it is contradicted by many other reported narratives. Moreover, there is absolutely no reason to accept the narrative of Hisham ibn `Urwah as true when other scholars, including Malik ibn Anas, view his narrative while in Iraq, as unreliable. The quotations from Tabari, Bukhari and Muslim show they contradict each other regarding Ayesha’s age. Furthermore, many of these scholars contradict themselves in their own records. Thus, the narrative of Ayesha’s age at the time of the marriage is not reliable due to the clear contradictions seen in the works of classical scholars of Islam.

Therefore, there is absolutely no reason to believe that the information on Ayesha’s age is accepted as true when there are adequate grounds to reject it as myth. Moreover, the Quran rejects the marriage of immature girls and boys as well as entrusting them with responsibilities.

T.O. Shanavas is a physician based in Michigan. This article first appeared in The Minaret in March 1999.

If this does not provide enough evidence for you, there's more here, here and here and I am sure there are many more sources out there if you pull your finger out and search for the evidence instead of just believing what people tell you with no real substance to back up their claims whatsoever.


Stephanie said...

Thank you so much. That is invaluable information when you are talking with unbelievers - all my friends and family. Thank you!

Umm Kadhim said...

Salaam sister. Thank you for posting this. It is so true.

Anonymous said...

EXCELLENT!!!!! Very informative!!! And with proofs for people to research for themselves!!!!

Anonymous said...

1) The fact that only secular english-speaking individuals bring up this "issue" gives more of a insight into their own psyches than into Islam. Why are grown adults, that are not Muslims, pre-occuipied with who married who at what age? What internal conflicts are they dealing with?

2) If Aysha was 6,7,8,9 or whatever, who really gives a fuck? Why are these degenerates just looking at that initial stage? Why not the later stages of their life together? Look at the whole picture. I thought these were people of the "enlightenment" LOL.

3) No I wouldnt give my six year old daughter away for marriage, but I approve 1000% of the marriage between Hadrat Muhammad (saw) and Aysha. When you can unify a buncha loser-ass arabs and help establish one of the largest hominid communities the earth has ever seen, then maybe you can be in a position to criticize The Seal.

As-salam alaikum.

Indonesian Prince

clare said...

I agree with Stephanie- thanks for passing along this article, particularly because it's written in a straight-forward way that's easy for non-Muslims to understand.

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Anonymous said...

last month, i attend comparative religion foundation whereby the place of non-muslims want to know more about the truth of religion.
then, this type of question been argued and I really like the explanation from this scholar.

He explained like this:
y must people do compare 9 year old girl nowadays which most of them are not matured with a girl that live during the Prophet Muhammad?
I believe most of our grandmother, great grandmother and so on marry at the age of below 18, isn't that young enough to compare the girls now would likely to b marry at the age of 20..if that is the true, then Aisha and us which has approximate 1400yrs ago would be more matured at the age of 9..
9 yr old girl long time ago were able to hold the responsibility of being a wife nt a 9 yr old girl nowadays..


Anonymous said...

Indonesian Prince- can you please refrain from using such foul language? Thank you!

Diamond Girl said...

Yes I have had the same sick individual leave that disgusting message in my comments box on my blog. The same individual also routinely visits my blog asking for help to assit those trying to leave Islam. I am now certain that he/she is targeting blogs for muslimas. Thank you for clearing that myth up for everyone!

Layla said...

Assalaamu aleikum, great post sister! I had no idea about alot of that info. Sadly though I think people that are going about trying to "discredit" Islam, with such cheap blows as Aisha's(pbuh) age, in my experience are not trying to learn anything about the case or read anything on it, rather they just usually want to throw insults around and spew hate. SubhanAllah, some peoples hearts are sealed. Love your blog :))

Anonymous said...

Wow this is facinating. It never made sense to me. Her being betrothed at 9 would make sense then marrying at age. But being married never made sense. This clears up a lot thank you. I may link this in my other blog.

Anonymous said...

to compare a 9 year old girl that lived a long time ago and the girl nowadays are totally unreliable. this is because we can see that 9 yr old girl now are immature..
okay, this is the chronology if that Christian guy want to compare a long time ago and nowadays..

In 2000 - most of the girl want to marry at the late 30's because they want to focus on their job.
1990 - the girl are most likely to be married at the age of 20-30
1960 - the girl at this particular time, they married at the age of 15 to 18

so,during the prophet Muhammad a long, long time ago, it was possible for Ayesha to betroth because she was able to hold the responsibility. Suppose for the non-muslims, they should compare the situation occur at ancient time or known their generations a long time ago when did their great, great, great grandmother get married.

luckyfatima said...

Great article.

Souleha said...

Salam....Thx so much sisters. Allah maak, insyaAllah.

Anonymous said...

assalamu alaikum,
Source of infor...
xtremeownage2 | August 24, 2007
Correction in the video: She (RA) was between 18-23 years old!
Source of information on video: http://www.islamicsupremecouncil.com/...
There is a whole Science between finding out which hadiths are accurate and which are not!
Remember, the hadiths were compiled over 100 years later! That is a historical fact!
History and the Quran prove that Hazrat Aisha was around the ages of 18-23 when she got married.
Aisha (RA) Said:
"There is no one with a better character than the messenger of Allah."
FYI: Unlike many other religions, Islam is a religion of logic and reasoning! Hadiths that contradict with each other have no significance, and are the works of MUNAFIQS (Hypocrates)
Thousands of Hadiths were removed in Bukhari, because they were seen unfit over a 1000 years ago.
So why is it that the all of the hadiths are considered by many Salafis/Wahabis to be 100% accurate, if Thousands were thrown in the trash.
The Munafiqs were jealous about the growth of Islam, so they contaminated the works of the Sahaba with there filth and propaganda.
for more, watch read at
: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXaw9UZlK_I

There is a wonderful video with evidence on the following you tube channel :

Anonymous said...

thankyou so so much for posting this. I searched the web and ALL I COULD FIND WAS THAT IT IS PERMISSIBLE! what ignorant rude people. This is NOT an islamic practice it is a cultural tradition! Which is why so many muslims have left their culture...Why on earth do we have ignorant cultures? I mean, no not all culture is like that. We get many good things from culture: rich languages, delicious food, beautiful clothing. But the only culture western media focuses on is the ignorant....


ali2706 said...

this is all bullcrap. all the scholars of islam have agreed to the fact that aisha was only 6 when pedo mohammed married her and he had sex with her when she was only 9 and was still playing with her dolls. what a sick man pedo mohammed was. i'm so sorry to say that you are a liar and you are contradicting the all the scholars of islam who have stated again and again that aisha was 9 when pedo mohammed raped her. all of you should be ashamed of yourself for following a pedophile and calling him the prophet of god. that's the reason why i left this murderous cult islam. i was a muslim too and as a muslim i was taught to hate all the non muslims and follow pedo mohammed. but after leaving islam i feel much better. i would advice you all to leave islam or join pedo mohammed in hell.
ali an ex muslim.

Stylish Muslimah said...

Ali: Sorry but you're wrong, not all scholars of Islam believe that. But that's something you can look into yourself, I'm not about to try convincing somebody that doesn't want the truth.

You sound like you're pretty spiteful about Muslims, just remember that you left Islam because it apparently teaches hate, yet you're currently hating on a huge proportion of the world's population.

Of course you felt better when you left Islam, I wouldn't have expected anything else.

You could tell me to leave Islam from now until I die. It would never happen. It's the only thing besides death that I am certain of. The Quran is the word of Allah (SWT) and a beautiful guidence. I am not enough in love with the life of this world to ever turn away from it.


Muslimah said...

MashaAllah well said sister. To Allah we belong and to Him is our return. May Allah make us live and die as righteous muslims.