19 August 2011

Rant #329,431


Is it just the ones that I am related to or do all men (while their wives slave away in the kitchen) feel the need to act like they are THE only human beings who have to endure the hardships of fasting, giving off this impression that they might die/fall unconscious about an hour before Iftar?
 
If so, forget marriage!!!!!



Oh and I hope Ramadan is going well.. :)

17 comments:

Toush said...

its cultural i guess

Stylish Muslimah said...

Great...

Anonymous said...

Usually it's the 2 hours before iftar that I'm feeling the best, because my body's already desensitized from not eating. But I never complain.

Also, I cook and enjoy cooking. I'm peeling, chopping, and stirring whatever needs to be stirred even before my mom asks, because when I was living on my own I had to learn to do all that. It showed me how difficult cooking is, especially if cooking for an entire family. Shame that it goes so unappreciated in most households.

Don't feel too bad. Insha'Allah, you'll marry a religious brother who's also a chef. :)

Salaam

-Imran

Anonymous said...

Why would it be cultural?

-Imran

Anonymous said...

My husband helps with the cooking, and if he gets home from work before me the meal is already under way when I arrive. He is not a cheff, but he is great in the kitchen, and helps around the house too. Not all marriages are one-sided when it comes to the work at home.

Stylish Muslimah said...

Imran: Trust me, you're mum is lucky, most sons are not like that lol.

Salam

Stylish Muslimah said...

Anon: Aw that's so nice :D Ok, maybe they aren't all the same then.. Ramadan Kareem :)
Also, could you put a name next time, thanks!
Salam

Candice said...

I haven't required any cooking from my husband during the month, especially since I'm not fasting myself (pregnant) and I'm happy he recognizes that even if he's fasting and has that difficulty, I am pregnant and working hard on meals. He has not complained once, even if the food kinda sucked. I'm so happy with him really.

Stylish Muslimah said...

Candice: That's so sweet, congratulations on getting pregnant btw :D Perhaps I shouldn't sweep them all with the same brush afterall.
Salam

azra said...

This made me smile, without fail 1 hour before iftar my husband is asleep on the sofa despite his declarations during the day that he would help prepare the meal. The thought was there I suppose !
Funny thing is before we were married he lived by himself and so had to do everything for himself but gradually the longer we have been married the lazier he has become. The phrase would you keep a dog and bark yourself comes to mind.....not that I am calling myself a dog mind but you get what I mean !

Stylish Muslimah said...

Azra: Your comment in turn made me smile lol. Yes at least he *appeared* to have the intention to help, I think that does makes a difference. Salam :)

washi said...

LOL My husband is a lot like Azra's...he helps around the kitchen...cooks soup and bakes bread, etc. but an hour before iftar...forget it...he's suddenly very very busy then :D

Zee said...

LOL! This post made me double up with laughter! Seriously men! Supposed to be the stronger ones and they behave as if they are going to faint while fasting. May Allah guide them in this holy month...

Chaajo said...

Whether man or woman, they equally face hardships in life. ^_^
Just an opinion.
Thanks to Allah (SWT).

Leila and Aliya said...

heehee
most wives: HEAR HEAR!
but yeah not all are like that...
(HEAR HEAR)

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Anonymous said...

@Stylish Muslimah,
trust me there are the reasonable ones that really don't mind if the meal is late or if they have to help.Then again if ure not preparing a crazy arab feast then its not a problem to make a meal 30 min before iftar and everyone is happy. I aint spending my special hours working in the kitchen when my husband understands that its my time for ibadah as well alhamdulillah. Maybe men should be reminded of that more often.
**Bella-Vita**

Anonymous said...

To be fare, i used to laugh at my husband for looking so yellow before iftar. specially during our very very long Scandinavian Ramadan days. While i usually spend the time before iftar cooking and not feeling the hunger. But one day i had everything ready from the day before. So i understood that it is much harder to sit around and wait then to cook or do something. don't get me wrong he helps with simpler thing like making a salad, but that doesn't cut it i guess.