27 September 2011

How To Control Your Anger

"Anger begins with madness and ends with regret"

 Hazrat Ali bin Abu Talib (R)


As we know, anger often leads us to do or say things we wouldn't in a normal situation and this can lead to irreparable damage. As Muslims we know that anger is a deception of Shaytan (Satan) and is used by him and his allies to lead mankind astray. Islam teaches us certain things that we can do in order to successfully control our anger and keep the devil at bay.

I have been reading about the steps we can take in order to conquer anger and decided to do a post condensing them into a short, readable guide. All information is from either the Quran or reliable ahadith.

If you start to feel angry about something, take a step back and do the following: 

1. Seek refuge in Allah (SWT) by saying:

"Audhu bilAllah min shur ash shaydhaan al rajeem" (I seek refuge in Allah from the outcast Satan). This is what the Prophet (S) used to advise.

The Qur'an says: "And if an evil suggestion comes to you from Shaitan, then seek refuge in Allah, He is hearing and knowing." [7:200]

2. Change your physical position:

If you are standing, sit down (preferably on the ground, but this is obviously not always possible).

The Messenger of Allah (S) said: "If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down so his anger will go away; if it does not go away, let him lie down."

3. Don't "discuss" your disagreements when angry:

It is counter-productive. It may be difficult to hold your tongue but remember that you cannot take back a word once it has been spoken.

The Prophet (S) said: "If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent."

4. Do Wudu (ablution):

5. Remember...
...that whatever happened is because Allah (SWT) allowed for it to happen. He knows best and as He has said in the Quran, you may hate something that is good for you and love something that is harmful to you.


Anonymous said...

Nice post

Anonymous said...

who is Atiyyah As-sa'di?

Thank you.


Stylish Muslimah said...

Imran: I don't know anything about him other than that he narrated about 2 hadiths including this one. Sorry!


beingFab said...

That was a great post. I do have an anger management problem and I'm trying to control it specially since I have a child. Islam does have the solution to everything!

Stylish Muslimah said...

beingFab: Aw I'm glad you like the post! Good luck with it, I hope it goes well.

Salam x

Muslimah said...


Very good post!! <3 I love it . I have a very short temper that I need to control!


Muslimah said...

Please add option to share your posts on twitter and facebook. <3

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Stylish Muslimah said...

Imran: Yes, I can really see her winning that..

Elle said...

JazzakAllahu kheiran .. really great post.
It's very important to read & do what you wrote.
Very good mashAllah :)

eLLe <3


Labella Iman said...

Salamualaikum sis! Beautiful reminder! Do you mind if i borrow this post? of course giving full credit to you! I'm going to do a series of posts on positive outlooks and keeping negativity away from all aspects and this fits perfect!


Stylish Muslimah said...

Iman: Go right on ahead, you don't need to link back if you don't want to. By the way, I literally LOVE your blog. It's going to be my new fave on my reading list lol.

Salam x

Labella Iman said...

AWW Thank u love!! Honored to have you read! And Of course I want too, I Give credit when credit is due!! xoxo